The job I lost
I worked for 8 years in a public relations consultancy position for a non-governmental organisation. I enjoyed my work and I was well paid. Unfortunately, PR isn't always viewed as a necessary position, and when money is tight, this area (as well as training, marketing and advertising) is the first to be chopped.
I knew that my position was going to be made redundant and I was prepared. I paid off my debts and went back to school to retrain in another area. I was confident that I would be able to land another job, especially as I was prepared and now skilled in two areas.
What it's like being unemployed
Two years later I'm still unemployed. I've done some interviews - some employers have contacted me to let me know I was unsuccessful and others didn't bother. Then 7 months later my mother died and I also miscarried. It was as if everything was happening to me all at once. I've tried to be self sufficient, making baked goods for sale and even jewelery but the money is very little. In this economy people just aren't spending.
I'm lucky in that my husband is self employed and that we own our own home. Still, I feel awful about the financial burden that he has to bear. Being unemployed makes me feel useless, stupid and worthless with the countless rejection I receive. I see jobs advertised that I know that I can do and I can't even get those. I've even "dumbed down" my resume to get minimum wage jobs but nothing. I'm 36 and realising that employers want people fresh out of university. I went from making $60,000. a year to making $56 a month selling jewelry.
I feel as if people don't truly understand how horrible I feel and I get soooo tired of their platitudes such as "God will provide," "God is Good" and to pray about it. I know they mean well but I need this "God" to provide quickly. I feel as if they are judging me for being unemployed and some people have this snotty attitude that unemployment can't happen to them.
My unemployment benefits expired in June 2011 and I have $100 to my name. Well meaning people tell me to "open my own business" as if it were that easy. It's usually Government employees who tell me this and I'm tempted to whack them on the snout but what would be the point?
- To those persons who are employed, understand that this too can happen to you. Be prepared and save some money!
- You get to see who your real friends are. The ones who will call you to check in or give you a heads up on a job lead
- Remember, it's not what you know. It's not even who you know. It's who knows you. Network and let it be known that you are job hunting
- Depression is real.
- Set tasks to be accomplished every day and do it.
- Save money by selling stuff you don't use
- Prepare a menu plan and plan your grocery list around it
- Put on a brave face & keep trying
- Cry if you need to.