Why I Was Fired
I was not retained after a year's probationary period. I was told that I didn't meet expectations. My addressing those allegations with positive, tangible examples of my work and performance were dismissed as irrelevant.
What Being Fired Has Been Like
I felt unjusty accused, humiliated, and discarded. I felt angry at how a person in power could denigrate me and make it look in writing, like I lacked merit and worth. I went over and over scenarios where I would get revenge by exposing her incompetence, lack of experience, and proving that I'd been wronged.
- It is OK to feel wronged, ganged up against, and enraged by your impotence. I felt all of these.
- If at all possible, do not take a job for which you are over-qualified or if your credentials exceed your supervisor's. I did. Being over-qualified, I foolishly expected recognition for great results. I looked good to others but my supervisor lost credibility and status with subordinates and superiors.
- If you do take that job, zip it and keep your sense of entitlement in check.
- Accept that it was the wrong job for you, frees and empowers you. It did me. I also let go of my anger and the need for revenge.